By Gwen Lowe


Intervening a difficult behavior copied by a child is never an easy task. Since the young creature does not have the power to screen out bad influence, his or her ability to decide is impaired. With this argument, it would be unbiased to say that parents are primarily responsible for correcting them based on values and norms.

A youngster will be bombarded with lots of stimuli and would not even bother filtering these. Family, friends, and the environment can play a significant role in molding his or her developing personality to either on the positive side or more of the negative side. How to help a child with behavior problems could be a simple question for many but often times overlooked and taken for granted. Basing on social psychology, we will give you tips to help you discipline your lad.

Firstly, you must put to mind that isolation is not the medicine for imposing the right behavior to your child and nipping the bad one in the bud. This may even cause antisocial thoughts to grow on your youngster. Instead, you must find an environment conducive to character development and to becoming a socially intelligent person.

However, you do not want to destroy the childhood of your kids. Both bad and good influences from the environment will help them have a well rounded personality. What you can do is deploy the reward and consequence strategy developed by experts. Every time they do something inappropriate with their peers, you must give them something as a consequence. If they do the opposite, reward them for a job well done.

When giving punishments, make sure it fits their natural temperament. For example, there are kids that hate home chores while others like doing it. Others would prefer to be alone while some would not like to be far from their peers.

Give them something they hate doing as a consequence. Usually, a sanguine kid would hate to be stripped out of attention while his or her melancholy counterpart would become uneasy when put to the middle of the stage. Knowing the personality type of your youngster makes this more effective. This also ensures that you are punishing them based on their personalities without bias.

Parents nowadays can often overlook this fact and would punish their children because of personality bias. You have to know first if what you are seeing as a behavioral problem is true and not superficial. You also have to understand your own self before you can have the right to throw discipline to your offspring.

It must be also partial to conclude that because it is your kid, you may have the absolute right to discipline them even if you do not know yourself. In relation to this, if you wanted to protect your kid from becoming a smoker in the future but you do smoke yourself, it then becomes incongruent. If you wanted your kids to embrace the good traits that you want them to have by being a role model.

To conclude, 3 things are essential in training a lad to behave appropriately. First, give them the right environment and peers. Second, know their personality type and natural temperament. Last, discipline yourself first so they will trust you with it.




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