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I:0:T Much of the time parenting "experts," which is to say people who got that way mostly by attending college and not so much by raising children, tell us that kids less than six months or a year old don't have the ability to experience real anger. These "experts" see newborns as emotionally pre-functional. They say that even if babies sound angry they really aren't. They're just instinctually communicating or something. I don't know what these parenting professionals believe begins to happen at this magical age of six months or a year that makes babies finally able to be angry when they sound angry. But I know that I disagree with their theory.
From having and raising thirteen kids, I've learned some things about how infants function. I think newborns have very real emotions. I think they can and do once in awhile feel real anger-potentially from the moment they are born. If an infant's needs are not met, he or she will feel very natural human anger. That anger can and does occasionally escalate into tantrums. Furthermore, babies are capable of understanding parental responses, or lack of them, to their anger. They know if their anger needs are getting met. If infants consistently do not get their anger needs met, they come to trust that likelihood, becoming predisposed to quickly escalate into temper tantrums. But if the infants do regularly get their anger needs met, they come to trust that likelihood, becoming predisposed to not throw temper tantrums.
My first five babies all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight didn't-because I had learned with my fifth what to alter in my parenting style. He was fourteen months when he became forever free of throwing temper tantrums within a week of my implementing my new techniques, which are part of what I now have named, "Infant Anger Management."
There's no scientific proof for theories that all children throw tantrums or that tantrums are a normal part of children's development. Also, there are many false theories about what causes temper tantrums in children, including brain chemicals! The most common cause theories, however, are children's: lack of problem-solving skills, low tolerance for frustration, lack of communication abilities, need for attention, and lack of ways to let out emotions. None of these are causes of tantrums. But they are causes of pre-tantrum anger, which, if responded to appropriately by parents, dissipates easily without leading to tantrums. Children who are used to parents responding properly to such anger generally develop patience and do not escalate with their anger.
The first step of "Infant Anger Management" is to respond properly to children's and infants' pre-tantrum anger. In this method I teach parents everything they need in order to totally prevent and totally eliminate tantrums in their children, even if they have ODD, ADD, or ADHD.
From having and raising thirteen kids, I've learned some things about how infants function. I think newborns have very real emotions. I think they can and do once in awhile feel real anger-potentially from the moment they are born. If an infant's needs are not met, he or she will feel very natural human anger. That anger can and does occasionally escalate into tantrums. Furthermore, babies are capable of understanding parental responses, or lack of them, to their anger. They know if their anger needs are getting met. If infants consistently do not get their anger needs met, they come to trust that likelihood, becoming predisposed to quickly escalate into temper tantrums. But if the infants do regularly get their anger needs met, they come to trust that likelihood, becoming predisposed to not throw temper tantrums.
My first five babies all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight didn't-because I had learned with my fifth what to alter in my parenting style. He was fourteen months when he became forever free of throwing temper tantrums within a week of my implementing my new techniques, which are part of what I now have named, "Infant Anger Management."
There's no scientific proof for theories that all children throw tantrums or that tantrums are a normal part of children's development. Also, there are many false theories about what causes temper tantrums in children, including brain chemicals! The most common cause theories, however, are children's: lack of problem-solving skills, low tolerance for frustration, lack of communication abilities, need for attention, and lack of ways to let out emotions. None of these are causes of tantrums. But they are causes of pre-tantrum anger, which, if responded to appropriately by parents, dissipates easily without leading to tantrums. Children who are used to parents responding properly to such anger generally develop patience and do not escalate with their anger.
The first step of "Infant Anger Management" is to respond properly to children's and infants' pre-tantrum anger. In this method I teach parents everything they need in order to totally prevent and totally eliminate tantrums in their children, even if they have ODD, ADD, or ADHD.
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