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I:0:T During all of the forty-some years I have been parenting, the most consistent temper tantrum advice from experts has been for parents to ignore their child's tantrums. The theory behind such a technique of ignoring temper tantrums, according to my understanding, is that ignoring them prevents their validation. The parent who ignores tantrums avoids rewarding their child for them and avoids reinforcing their negative behavior with any attention.
According to such don't-reinforce-negative-behavior thinking, in such situations the underlying assumption is that a child is throwing the tantrum so as to get undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parent avoids reinforcing such negative behavior, it should cease to occur, go away, and stop. Despite this theory behind ignoring tantrums, throughout the modern history of parenting advice, most experts who have recommended using this technique haven't purported that it prevents tantrums or stops them in progress.
Just a few short decades ago, experts still weren't putting the word prevention in the same sentence along with the word tantrum. Their advice was given only to teach parents the best ways to deal with and manage the tantrums, much the same as is the case today. However, current parenting experts now inform parents on how to prevent a portion of the temper tantrums by handling the child's tantrum triggers, such as tiredness, frustration, and hunger. Or in other words, these parenting advisors teach parents to prevent the tiredness, frustration, and hunger in their children. They don't actually teach parents how to prevent tantrums in their children's normal living, which occasionally includes hunger, frustration, and tiredness.
My particular method of temper tantrum prevention and elimination is greatly different from other people's methods. I help parents learn how to respond to their babies and children in a way that totally makes it unnecessary to be watchful for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually anger triggers). The typical childhood and infant frustrations stop triggering temper tantrums. In spite of this basic theory behind the ignoring-tantrums technique, throughout modern history of parenting advice, most experts who've recommended using the technique haven't claimed that it will prevent tantrums or stop them in progress.
I teach parents to totally, 100% eliminate temper tantrums from their children's behavioral repertoire so there are no longer any tantrums in progress to have to stop, handle, manage, or deal with. I also teach parents to consistently respond to their newborn infants in ways that the babies never develop a tantrum-throwing pattern or even of escalating when angry. I teach parents these abilities with clarity and with many examples in hopes that they will learn them quickly and easily.
According to such don't-reinforce-negative-behavior thinking, in such situations the underlying assumption is that a child is throwing the tantrum so as to get undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parent avoids reinforcing such negative behavior, it should cease to occur, go away, and stop. Despite this theory behind ignoring tantrums, throughout the modern history of parenting advice, most experts who have recommended using this technique haven't purported that it prevents tantrums or stops them in progress.
Just a few short decades ago, experts still weren't putting the word prevention in the same sentence along with the word tantrum. Their advice was given only to teach parents the best ways to deal with and manage the tantrums, much the same as is the case today. However, current parenting experts now inform parents on how to prevent a portion of the temper tantrums by handling the child's tantrum triggers, such as tiredness, frustration, and hunger. Or in other words, these parenting advisors teach parents to prevent the tiredness, frustration, and hunger in their children. They don't actually teach parents how to prevent tantrums in their children's normal living, which occasionally includes hunger, frustration, and tiredness.
My particular method of temper tantrum prevention and elimination is greatly different from other people's methods. I help parents learn how to respond to their babies and children in a way that totally makes it unnecessary to be watchful for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually anger triggers). The typical childhood and infant frustrations stop triggering temper tantrums. In spite of this basic theory behind the ignoring-tantrums technique, throughout modern history of parenting advice, most experts who've recommended using the technique haven't claimed that it will prevent tantrums or stop them in progress.
I teach parents to totally, 100% eliminate temper tantrums from their children's behavioral repertoire so there are no longer any tantrums in progress to have to stop, handle, manage, or deal with. I also teach parents to consistently respond to their newborn infants in ways that the babies never develop a tantrum-throwing pattern or even of escalating when angry. I teach parents these abilities with clarity and with many examples in hopes that they will learn them quickly and easily.
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